This is a very simplified concept of raising children in Islam and is intended only as a guide.
“No father or mother can leave their child anything better than a good upbringing.” (Thirmidi)
The Prophet (saw) said: ' Whoever does not show mercy will not be shown mercy.' (Bukhari)
Phase 1 (Playtime: be a good playmate)
0-7 years
During this phase, children are still very immature and often cannot distinguish between "right" and "wrong," or "good" and "bad." During this phase, you should primarily play with your child, devote time to them, and show them compassion and forbearance. Through affection, love, play, and security, you strengthen the bond with your child, which will bear fruit later on.
Phase 2 (Learning time: be a good teacher)
7-14 years
During this phase, children are already more mature and have acquired the ability to distinguish between right and wrong. They are eager to learn and curious. This is the learning phase. Encourage your child and support them in their learning. Through motivation, praise, and consistency, you teach your child the duties, rules, and responsibilities of a Muslim. Set a good example in everything you teach your child. Be consistent, but always be compassionate and patient. Because of the strong existing bond with you (from Phase 1), it will be easy for your child to listen to you and trust you.
Phase 3 (Almost grown-up - be a good friend)
14-21 years
At this stage, children are almost adults and have developed their own character and outlook on life. From this point on, it becomes very difficult to change or "educate" anything. Support your child on their path through life with good advice and gentle encouragement, just like a good friend would. Be a loyal and helpful companion they can rely on. Listen and always take your child seriously. Always be compassionate and loving.
“A man came to the Prophet (sws) and said, ‘You kiss children, but we do not kiss them.’ The Prophet (sws) said, ‘What can I do for you if Allah has removed mercy from your heart?’” (Al-Bukhari).